Therapy Has Rules… And You Can’t Break Them🙅‍♀️

 Before studying counselling psychology, I thought therapy was just talking about your problems while the counsellor sits there like 👁👄👁 and occasionally says something deep.

But turns out… therapy actually has rules. Like serious rules.

And no, they’re not suggestions 😭

These rules are called ethics, and they basically make sure the counsellor doesn’t accidentally ruin someone’s life

First and most important confidentiality.

Which means whatever you say in therapy… stays in therapy.

So no, your counsellor is not going home like, “Guys, you won’t beleive what my client said today—”

No. Immediately no 😂

But okay there are some exceptions like if someone is in danger. So it’s not just secret-keeping, it’s responsible secret-keeping.

Next comes no judging.

A counsellor could hear the most shocking thing ever and still respond with, “I understand… tell me more.”

Meanwhile, me as a friend would be like,

“EXCUSE ME???” 😭

Then we have boundaries.

Counsellors are not your best friends. They’re not texting you “hey what’s up” or hanging out after sessions.

This is not a Netflix show where the therapist becomes part of your personal life.💀

Professional. Distance. Only.

Another rule is competence.

Which basically means: don’t act like you know everything.

If a counsellor isn’t trained in something they shouldn’t just guess and hope for the best. This is not an exam where you write anything and pray for marks 😭

And finally, there’s responsibility.

Everything a counsellor says can affect someone deeply. So they have to be careful, thoughtful, and actually know what they’re doing.

What I realised is that ethics are what make therapy feel safe.

Without them, it would just be people giving random advice…and honestly we already have friends for that 😂

So yeah, therapy isn’t just “talking.”

It’s talking with rules, trust, and a lot of responsibility.





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