Not Everyone Should Be a Counsellor.. And that’s okay

At some point in life almost everyone has had that one moment where they think, “You know what? I’d actually be a great therapist.” Usually after giving one solid piece of advice and watching your friend go “wow, that actually helped.”

It feels like a sign. Like… maybe this is your calling. But then counselling psychology enters your life and very politely says, “calm down.” 😭




 



Afteractually studying it I realised something very interesting not everyone who wants to become a counsellor should become one.

And no, this is not a personal attack on anyone (including past me🧏‍♀️).

Sometimes people are drawn to counselling for reasons that are a little… questionable. For example, some people think becoming a counsellor will help them fix their own life. Like, “I’ll just help others and magically heal myself in the process.” Sounds nice but therapy doesn’t work like a buy-one-get-one-free offer 😭

Then there are people who are just lonely and think this profession means unlimited deep conversations every day. Which is true… but also not the healthy reason to choose a career. And let’s be honest some people like the idea of being the one who gives advice and has influence over others. It feels powerful. But counselling is not about control it’s about helping someone without taking over their decisions.

Another myth? That being “nice” is enough. Like yes, being kind is important, but counselling is not just sitting there saying, “you deserve better.” (even though.. sometimes they really do 👀)

It actually requires training, self-awareness, and a lot of emotional responsibility.

What I found most interesting is that counsellors are expected to constantly reflect on themselves. Like why do I want to do this? Am I doing this for the right reasons? Do I understand my own emotions? Because counselling is not about you. It’s about the client. And if you’re not careful your own issues, biases, or needs can start affecting how you help others.

That’s why not everyone is suited for this field and that’s completely okay. Some people need healing before they start helping. Some people need clarity before they take on responsibility.

So now when I think about becoming a counsellor, I don’t just think, “I give good advice.” I think, “Am I emotionally ready to handle someone else’s world without making it about mine?” …and that question humbles me every time 😂

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